luke warm, on Jul 12 2004, 12:11 AM, said:
it sounds very much like you're saying you've never made a bidding mistake, one that (at the table, at that time) you felt (judged) to be correct... not one, maybe, you'd repeat, but one that "felt right" at the time
No no I am not saying that.
If it sounds like that, then I have chosen the wrong words, sorry for that.
What I am saying is that I believe that biding is a very very very poor choice here, not a matter of judgment and that when this happens, I want my partner to know it (not yelling at him, telling it very nicely, if he is a listening partner).
I will repeat it for the last time, and Ron has posted the same concept as well: if your pard passes 3H here he will be broke and wwe'll go for a number; if he has something useful he'll raise to 4H and we'll go down.
On average you are bound to minus more than their club partscore more often than not, AND quite often we'll be severely penalized.
This should be made very clear in an intermediate- beginners forum and should be very clear to any experienced bridge player.
Bidding here shows one of 2 things:
- having no clue of this bidding sequence: in this case i will be very nice to explain this to my partner; I am always ready to explain the reason of a very poor chice to a partner who tried to do his best;
- if the bidder is a good bridge player, it just means he plays only with his own cards and does not intend bridge as a partnership game, not thinking of what partner will do, no respect of partnership. The sequence is obvious. A good player knows that it is impossible to stop in 3H if pard has a decent hand.
I expect him to apologize even if the bid turns out well, if he does that, no problem at all.
Bidding here is like passing a 4NT ace ask by pard, or reversing with 11 hcp because it breaks a basic agreement. What would you do if your pard passes your 4NT ace ask ? You would probably explain to him very nicely that he has no clue of what he did
. If he insist that it is the right thing and that he is a good bridge player the discussion may become interesting
.
I would do the same.
Finally:
I always make mistakes, but I do apologize when I do them, Luke.
But in my experience, the kind of players who like these bids never apologize.
Unfortunately, the kind of people who do this bid usualy grossly overestimate not only the value of their hands but also the quality of their own play and bids
).
They lack humbleness: if you tell them (aways nicely and with a smile) to go and study the books on these bidding sequences (there are books quite fine on this) they'll just say that they do not need books, that's theory but real bridge is something else: the typical attitude of people who do not want confrontation.
Most of the time they'll be arrogant instead of apologizing, even if your observations on their bad bids are told very nicely and with a smile. They will be arogant because they will not accept that you teach them nicely what is the right bid because that woul mean to accept the evidence that they bid like a real beginner.
But that is the plain truth: they bid like a beginner.
Many of them put "expert" on profile, perhaps mistaking this term with "experienced".
But maybe you are luckier than me in your occasional partnerships.
(PS- to avoid any misunderstanding: I do not believe it is the case of helene_t.
The simple fact she posted the hand shows that she is willing to verify te correctness of a choice she made)
"Bridge is like dance: technique's important but what really matters is not to step on partner's feet !"