sceptic, on Jul 26 2007, 03:48 PM, said:
after the hand everyone left, am I paranoid or just plain ***** at this game, the previous hand, I sat at the table and my pard started gobbing off about a bid the previous occupant had made, main bridge club is becoming painful some days
My 2 cents worth.
A few years ago at my local bridge club, I had a partner with whom I decided to meet and discuss the hands. It was not a success. For every argument that I put forward, he had a counter-argument. It took me some time - I am a slow learner - but I eventually realized that he just liked the argumentative process.
I could see that I could never "win" an argument with this guy. So I stopped trying to convince him of anything. Actually, I am forever grateful that he taught me the pointlessness of arguing.
Forget about trying to educate partner. Much better is to just go over a hand and educate oneself. It's something chess grandmasters learned long ago. (They never had a partner to blame!) They will look at a particular position for up to a week. Slowly all the nuances make themselves known and become part of the memory bank.
The MAJOR reason why I play on BBO is because the bidding and play is recorded. I can look back at my hands and also check out what happened at the other tables.
Prompted by Jlall's advice in these forums, I am reviewing my hands more frequently. I use Double Dummy Solver
http://www.bridgemat...downloadDD.html to find all the permutations for a hand. DDS is great because it can read BBO files. It's fast and it's free.
Regarding imps scoring on BBO, I have concluded that there are two key factors that influence ones results enormously, and over which you have little control: (1) Which pair has the game-scoring cards? (2) Did they bid game with them?
Say the opponents have the cards and are competent enough to get to game. It is almost guaranteed that 3 or 4 pairs, out of the 16, will not bid game. So the opponents chalk up say 4 -5 imps. If the opponents get a run of good cards, after 6 boards, one is guaranteed to be behind 20-30 imps.
Similarly, if your side gets a run of game-scoring hands, there's no point in feeling superior when one racks up 20-30 imps. As long as you can bid your games, you will win your imps. To repeat, this is chiefly a consequence of 3-4 pairs not bidding game.
It is hard to remain focused when suffering a run of losses. I fell apart in that situation the other night. The opponents were unkind ;-) : they had the cards and they made a minimal number of errors. Under the pressure, I made a couple of “oops”. Plus I was tired.
I like playing in the main bridge club. Of course, there is a lot of "rough and tumble", but I think the key is not to say anything.
Never answer a partner if he asks, "Why did you ...?". Even if you just type "y” (as in "Yes I agree"), it can lead to further comments by your partner. And a hidden danger is that partner starts thinking about your hand rather than his own. That is a fatal mistake. If I start thinking about what partner should or shouldn't have done, I find I lose focus and start making mistakes myself.
I try to keep out of the opponents "discussions". For some reason, neither opponent seems to appreciate my wise advice. :-) The only thing I occasionally do is send a private message of support to an intermediate opponent, if I feel he is being harassed by his partner.
I have tried bridge4money.com a few times. There you cannot speak to your partners. In fact you have no idea who they are. It could be Zia! You make your decisions and you win and lose your money based on those decisions. Everything is completely anonymous. A “no blame” game. A great learning experience.
I have found Josh Waitzin’s book of great assistance.
http://www.joshwaitzkin.com/bio.html He writes about becoming a chess International Master and a Tai Chi martial arts world champion. Specifically, he addresses the issues of anger and frustration. In both these ultra-competitive games/sports, the opponents are out to unsettle you. Even the organizers may try to unsettle you, if they want their national champion to win. So you have to practice coping with anger and frustration. This was the best part of his book for me.