mikeh, on Jan 11 2007, 04:29 PM, said:
Jlall, on Jan 11 2007, 04:14 PM, said:
Many years ago, probably before Justin was born, I held something like Qxx in the ♥ suit and dummy held something like K109xx. Early on, it was obvious that eventually declarer, a solid player, would probably be leading towards dummy. I was not as experienced then as I am now but I could count declarer for at most 2 cards in the suit, and I knew that I would be playing low no matter what card declarer led.
However, declarer tanked and I drifted off. Then he played the ♥ J from his hand, and I broke tempo. I was not considering covering, that decision had been made several tricks earlier.. I had just lost focus. So I reflexively said what I always said in such circumstance: 'sorry, no problem'
Declarer looked at me and then called for the K, losing to the A... he had Jx and got a poor result. He never said a word, but I knew that he had marked me mentally as a coffee-houser or worse, and I was incredibly embarrassed.
Many years passed, and I occasionally played with and on teams with and often against this player... and it was about a year ago that he said to me: "Do you remember a hand back about 20 years ago I played against you...', and I knew immediately which hand he was talking about... I have never forgotten it and neither had he.... by now, fortunately, he knew me well enough to know that it truly had been an accident, but I learned a lesson way back then: don't say a word.. if you've lost focus enough to hestitate accidentally, maybe you've lost focus enough to allow a reflex statement to come out of your mouth
I also heard of a hand like this between meckstroth and zia where one said np when declarer led up to the KJ and they had the ace...and the other called director then appealed after misguessing.
There are plusses and minuses to each way of handling it but I still prefer saying "sorry np" when I have hesitated inadvertantly. If I did not they might think the same thing that your opponent probably thought when you did say something.

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