SOs are obligated to comply with the laws. That means that unless they have made other arrangement, if a contestant wants an appeal, they have to grant a committee. They may not want to do that, but so what?
Inconveniencing those who will be asked to serve is another thing. OTOH, if these folks have volunteered to serve, then so be it.
An appeal of an incorrect TD ruling cannot be
solely to educate the director. After all, you expect a favorable ruling from the committee. And it
cannot be frivolous. It is, after all, a contestant's right to appeal. AFAIK, the only justification for a ruling of "frivolous appeal" is that the appellant should have known there was no way the committee would legally be able to change the TD's ruling. I was about to right "was going to change" when I realized that construction leaves the door open for the committee that upholds, for whatever reason, the TD's ruling even when it's wrong.
My point is that
not appealing because you don't want to make your friend Joe miss dinner or because your SO would "prefer" you don't appeal or because it won't matter to your standing in the event is just wrong. If you have a valid reason for an appeal, you should make it.
A director should make the best ruling he can, and let the chips fall where they may. This "let the appeals committee sort it out" is the wrong approach.