GreenMan, on 2014-January-15, 11:59, said:
"Only allow private chat from friends" might be a useful setting to add.
I have a great deal of sympathy for the victim but I think this idea would definitely be letting the bad guys win. Although when someone is hassling you it is uncomfortable and sometimes quite upsetting, the nasties are a very very tiny portion of the BBO population. To withdraw into a shell because of the few nasties seems to me to be losing a good deal of the point of being on BBO.
To my understanding, these are power trippers who get their jollies from having people on the run; you've admitted defeat if you hide in a corner. I'd suggest: Change your nick so he has to look for you..there are a LOT of people on BBO it will take a while to find you again, if he ever does. You can always log on invisibly with your old nick and/or play at invisible tables as well, although if asked the web version used to tell if you were online even if you were invisible, I don't know if that's changed or not. In any case people cannot get to an invisible table without an invitation.
It would probably be a good idea NOT to tell the world that you've changed your nick from XWZ to abc, if you share that information with good and trusted friends they should be people you can count on to keep that info to themselves. If you aren't sure, then don't tell them, just create a new identity. Mark all his known nicks as enemy and hope he gets hit by a train if you think about him at all.
He doesn't know who you are in "real life" so really only has the power over you that you give him. It's sort of like having a gigantic mosquito around that you can't kill but you can keep it outside the house...it might get in when friends come in but you just mark that nick enemy as well, and he is outside the house again. A bit of a pain, but to mark someone enemy takes about 10 seconds and is better than letting him control what you want to do. It would be nice if BBO could wave a magic wand and have these losers disappear for good, but since the jerks can make new nicks and return, you may as well do what you can for yourself.
I think most of us (females, anyway) who have been on BBO for any length of time have had a contact or two with such morons, you aren't alone. They feed off people getting upset. Prevent him from being able to harrass you and get on with your life.